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Old Mar 25, 2014, 11:23 AM
Yearning0723 Yearning0723 is offline
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Originally Posted by Leah123 View Post
You don't need to be perfect to be in a relationship, or relationships would never happen. You need to be yourself and try to be kind. Of course you'll hurt someone. Someone will hurt you too. That always happens. But you'll have great times as well, you'll learn, you'll grow, you'll connect. It's ok to make mistakes. In fact, it's absolutely mandatory. You're not as broken as you think. Everyone has issues. I do not mean to make light of yours. But many many people have gone through similarly difficult situations and have relationships. Plus, you are actively working on yourself and trying to be self aware, which many many people don't, so you have that advantage.
I know. I guess it's just the situation with mentor figure that's hitting me hard and the fact that I get triggered by dumb things like her telling me about having to sit in the corner as a punishment when she was a kid. And because I got triggered, I overreacted to the situation and told her not to talk to me about her parents, which she took as an instruction not to talk about anything personal with me at all, thus greatly damaging our relationship. She doesn't act caring towards me anymore, just indifferent. It makes me so sad because I ruined something really wonderful because my issues were getting in the way.

And this happens literally all the time...I always hurt all the people who matter to me...