hi bwebb
I think you have the right thought process going. you shouldn't worry about trying to make him happy. you are not entirely at fault. it takes two to make a relationship. I wouldn't write off counseling though. He may hear something in the process that triggers him into action. it sounds like he needs a lot of work on himself. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome