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Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly
Would this be considered stuck in a thought loop?
My neighbor really upset me last night. I was building two bookcases to put along the wall we share. She is very noisy and I just cannot deal with it anymore. I googled how to soundproof a room for a cheap price. Lining the shared wall with bookcases was an idea. So I'm installing these two bookcases next to the other two I have on this bedroom wall. I get the first one in no problem. The second one I am anchoring to the wall. This required me to hammer on the wall for a few seconds just as I did with the first. This annoying neighbor starts beating the heck out of the wall on her side. Now it's only 8:20pm. I'm seconds away from being finished and she does this. I screamed back at the top of my lungs you can shut the hell up! I was so angry that she did this. Within seconds I hear her come out of her apartment and I'm standing in the middle of my bedroom floor. My curtain is pulled back. I see her stretch up onto her tip toes to look up into my window. I looked at her very mean. She turned her head quickly and went back into her apartment. I have never said one single word to her about all the noise she makes and the fact that she brings her dog outside off a leash and doesn't pick up after the dog. And the one night I make a little noise she wants to try and beat the wall down. Her actions sent me into a rage! It took me forever to get to sleep last night and then I had a really bad dream that woke me with severe anxiety and racing heartbeat. I just keep playing it out over and over in my mind and I feel such rage towards her. It was her fault in the first place that I even had to install more book shelves in my bedroom. Here I was trying to solve a problem and she just got me all fired up! I can't get it out of my mind. What do y'all think? I know I'm not normal for this but am I stuck in a thought loop??? Any information would be greatly appreciated.
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Yes. Absolutely. Now it's like all consuming and you just can't get it away? Yup. It will either go on it's own or it will keep going. The longer it goes the worse it gets in my own experience.

Even if you try to distract yourself it hangs on.
I can say that for me, this would send me into a thought loop.

I'm sorry she was being such a jerk. It is that way. My aunt next door has had a horrible messy yard (like with actual junk not just the weeds,) for years and years and years. Then my uncle died and she lost her job, so with her extra time she started fixed up her side. Then suddenly she is all over us to get our side fixed up. We just mostly have mowed weeds and it's ugly, not trash or junk.... once she even threatened to go to my dad like a child.... so... the worst offenders are the biggest hypocrits in my experience.
My advice is that if you don't wish to speak to her, to do like calming thoughts. "I've resolved the problem with my shelves." or something similar every time you think it.

I have terrible time stopping loops so I don't have great advice. I try to do distraction or try to talk myself out of it if I can.