I am struggling with this too. I am a mother but probably won't get anything from my boys who are young teenagers and my husband won't think to do anything for me and I feel exactly the same as you re my mum. However, I have invited her over for afternoon tea(!) and pretend everything is fine. I wanted to process it with T today but other stuff took over and time ran out. I feel uncomfortable every year. Also I buy flowers etc for my husbands mother but she always assumes it is all from him and rarely acknowledges me. I am feeling really raw and down. Sorry.