[quote=CameraObscura;3660158]Ugh.

I had forgotten Mother's Day was coming (I'm in the US). I don't have any advice, really. I empathize, though.

My mother and I have very superficial, rare social media contact, and that's it. Why should I send her Mother's Day cards when she never wanted to be my mother, and stopped trying when I was ten?

Just ugh.[/quot

We are at this weird cross roads where we haven't fallen out exactly but because i'm no longer making a lot of effort, neither is she as punishment and probably fear of what i might say to her. It's horrible. And sad. Thru therapy i've changed which is supposed to be good and healthier but in her eyes it just makes me strict and cold.