Hi Brokenentity: I just want to add two points. First, as I wrote to another PC'er a day or two ago, no one ever gets to go back. So when you say you want the things back that you shared with this person, you're really seeking the impossible. All you can do is to move forward from where you are now. You can't know what's behind this person's attitude. You've made a good faith effort to reconnect & you've been rebuffed... time to move on... If I were experiencing this what I would typically do is to simply sit with the distress as it arises, allow it to be present & breathe into it. Over time, it will just fade away. The second point is that I get the impression you're looking outside of yourself for validation. Of course, we all do this. You're certainly not unique in this regard. But, as I'm sure you know, ultimately you must find your validation within. I know it is hard to accept this right now, but you are perfect, just the way you are. You don't need this person's acceptance. Don't make whatever his problem is your problem.