Hi Lisette and welcome to PC!

I'd have to agree with you...unfortunatly there's no way to force a grown woman to go to the doctor unless something is wrong. While its hard to watch our loved ones doing something we think is unsafe, there's nothing we can do to control the situation. She'll probably go if something makes her think she should go. It seems to have worked well all these years for her. It's gonna be hard to accept it, but the more she feels forced, the more apt she'll be to refuse.

Maybe you could talk about another person's experience? Like a friend who's parent is sick.....and maybe she'll then want to do it for you? Reverse psychology so-to-speak?

Thats a hard situation. I'm glad you found us. =)

~Rayna