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Originally Posted by wilzy123
So... for a while now, whenever something (negative) flares up in my life, i've often found comfort in drinking alcohol to smooth the edges. Which works well! Except for the negative bits... i.e. i tend to feel unhealthy inside on a daily basis... i tend to get less sleep... i tend to do less things after work. For someone like me that wants to do a lot of things outside of work, the effect that alcohol was having on me was making me unhappy a lot of the time. I would compensate for this by drinking more coffee to make me more alert.. more productive.. but i found myself becoming increasingly more anxious about things, which only heightened the feelings i had during the negative periods. I've started to really look at myself in detail (the things i do, the things i eat and drink) and have become obsessed almost with how each of them impact on my wellbeing - i guess that's a healthy obsession. The reason i do it is because it helps me see a direct link between my actions and the way i feel, which helps me make decisions that i can feel positive about... i.e. "one less drink tonight... think about how you will feel tomorrow". I've found that all the little 'micro wins' like this have really helped me a lot more than having a chat to a psychologist alone. Having said that though, the psychologist was completely necessary alongside the other things I have been trying to improve my state. Has anyone else here tried this and had any success? Did you bring anything else into your life to help lower your anxiety?
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Micro wins are great. You don't think about this but, a single cell is the building blocks of the body, then you get organs, etc and finally you have a body that functions quite well. All because of a tiny little cell.
Your right to respect micro wins.
You should talk to a therapist. Read some of the blogs and see one that strikes a chord with you. If they are in your area, wonderful. If not, try to look at where they trained. Maybe you can find someone who has the same background.
Check out the resources section on the top horizontal menu bar. Pyschology Today is very similar to this site; in terms of blogs and referrals, give them a shot if you can't find it here.
You may even find out there is nothing wrong with you. Then you can stop worrying on this and go do whatever it is you want to do.
Most people are not crazy. We just don't know what is and is not normal. We work too much and don't form real and lasting friendships. How could we know. Television and the radio are so far from what is normal; they are the worst standard to use as a comparison.
Call the info line for your city. Ask the operator if there is a walk in mental health clinic that you do not have to be in crisis to use.