Hey, thanks for the replies already! I agree that her parents' past health problems are playing a major role. She prefers to be in denial, and she does this in other areas of her life as well. I, on the other hand, am on the opposite end of the spectrum! I tend to worry things to death (which isn't good either!), so we don't see eye to eye on this subject at all. I work in healthcare, and when I attempted to bring up this subject last week, I relayed a similar story about a client I worked with. she saw right through it, however, and still got mad.

I just don't know how to get over the guilt. I know it's probably not rational, but I feel like if never bring it up again to her, then I become partially responsible if she gets diagnosed with something that could have been taken care of or prevented, had she seen a doctor sooner. It's like I'm guilty by association, because I knew she wasn't taking care of herself. Call it the "only daughter" complex- I have two younger brothers and I just feel like everything falls on me to deal with and take care of. I even wonder if my brothers would blame me in part for not trying harder to change her mind, should something happen to her. Ugh. I hate being in this position!!!