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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Asiablue, if you usually do send a card, and part of you wants to, perhaps you could find a low key one that just says "Happy Mother's Day" and write something like "Hope you have a great day" inside? Nothing gushing about 'world's best mum' etc?
I am not for one tiny second saying you ought to send one - just if it would be a gesture that would make YOU feel happier? I mean, I'm not bothered about not sending one because we're crap at cards in my family anyway so it doesn't really matter (though I will be sad not to speak to her on the day, I doubt she'll even notice) but if cards are something that you like to do, or have significance in the wider context of your relationship, might be worth considering?
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I struggle with this issue too, for a couple reasons, and have touched on it in therapy, but not really worked it through. I just wanted to add that I also send a generic type card, and it does seem like the best way to balance the reality of the situation (she did feed and shelter me, but there were some horrible problems) and not cause any further angst.