((((( henrydavidtherobot ))))) kudos on your intelligent and well considered posts here.

Some things I really need to express today. I'm not Borderline (as far as I know and based on the evidence, I have other issues). However these issues seem to make it easier to relate to people with BPD; that plus educating myself on what it is, what it feels like, all I can say is I feel nothing but empathy for all of you and a desire to support.

This begs the question, what do you need? How can people be more fully and usefully supportive of you all? How can others offer effective support without possibly appearing overprotective or condescending and so on? (especially people like me who can practically "feel the pain from over here" and then have a strong urge to "tend and befriend" that could come across as awkward or even smothering?) If this question needs its own thread or belongs elsewhere, please let me know.