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Originally Posted by Daeva
My T frowns HEAVILY on any out of session contact, no emergency sessions, no calling to leave a message, she'll just say 'we'll talk about it next session. See you there." regardless of what it is. It sounds cold but she isn't, those are just her boundaries. We're as close as a good T and a client should be.
Today we had a great session, I've been doing so much better, and insightful and maturing and growing. Everythings on the up and good. She couldn't schedule me for next week so she scheduled me for the following week after next. Which is normal for us, well today she goes, "If you need something inbetween call my office, I'll see where I can fit you in."
Um what?????????
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I wonder if it's a sign that she is starting to trust the stability of your growth?
My understanding is that one of the characteristics of borderline is that the client can become very emotionally needy and that the best chance for the therapy relationship to survive is for there to be pretty rigid boundaries that prevent the client from overwhelming the therapist. If that's what is behind her boundaries, then apparently it's working, because you describe a relationship that sounds very healthy and helpful to you.
So if my 'wonderings' are accurate, I can't help but wonder if her offer to squeeze you in if you need it is just a really good sign that she trusts you to help her protect your relationship... and a sign that she has confidence in your growth. So I guess the goal would be for you to do everything you can to
not need her until your next scheduled apt!