Hannabee:

So let me be honest, being divorced I am not sure what love is? When I was married my wife told me that she loved me and then she had an affair. So am I in love? I guess so. I do care for her a great deal and love to be with her. There are no huge sparks flying like with my HS girlfriend many years ago.

Yes, the sex is incredible and she said that I was her best lover.

Sometimes I believe that I want to the right thing and give it another try because I do care for her.

You are correct, sometimes you cannot always please everyone and need to focus on yourself. If I go back with her, I am not sure how she is "going to change". People tell me it may be short lived but if she really cares for me as she states, people can change.