It sounds like you are making a lot of progress if your therapist was willing to offer you a job. I would be flattered even if it did fall through. Not many people can say their therapist offered them this opportunity. I realize the offer was withdrawn but understand that this withdrawal may not have had anything to do with her as there is a lot of red tape behind dual relationships. If anything, she is guilty of an oversight on the conflict of interest regarding dual relationships. Incase you are internalizing that rejection of the job, please try not to, because you nor your therapist can change the rules of the APA.

Also the " at the end of the day I love myself more" whether it be withdrawal or growth, hold on to it. That's a good feeling to have either way! Your therapist is not suppose to make you dependent on her so she might be pulling back her contact a little due to the progress you are making. Only one way to find out. I would ask how she thinks you are progressing. Good luck