Oh dear....So sorry you are going through this.

If you have told him to stop calling, messaging, emailing and he is not listening to you, then do the following.

As hard as it's going to be, IMO, you need to tell hubby what is going on. This guy is now stalking you. For your own safety, please tell your hubby then tell the police! Save every single message that he sends you to give to the police. If you can, make sure they are time stamped and if in email, that you choose to see all the "headers" and print them out along with the message. This gives them his address along with IP information for tracking purposes.

Please be careful....Good wishes sent your way!!

Hugsssss
J