This idea that I had to forgive and forget to move on crippled me for some time. There is no forgiveness for my abuse what was done shattered me, what restitution can make up for that.
I cannot forget and I will not forgive, because there was no repentance at all.
I have "forgiven" to let go of the anger that bound me so that I could move on but in my heart of hearts I know that I do not have the capacity to say "I forgive you" to his face. I can however say " you have no power over me"