I have felt stuck and unable to move on because I cannot forgive my mother for her abuse of me. She showed no remorse even when I questioned her on this. I asked what I had done to warrant her terrible behaviour yet she couldn't tell me however she was adamant to the last that everything was my fault and her "punishment" of me over the decades was perfectly justified. It wasn't. I did nothing wrong. I know that deep inside yet I still continue with blaming myself. I want to reach that point where I let go of the blame, anger and all the other negative emotions that are so crippling. I too want to say "you have no more power over me" and really believe that deep down. I will never forgive her actions but I have some empathy now for her as her life was miserable and pathetic because of events that happened to her before I was born. I believe she rejected me when I was born and could never show me any love. How sad! How completely sad for her. She missed out on knowing her own daughter. She punished me without realising it was herself she was punishing. She hated herself yet I bore the brunt of that hatred. Well enough is enough mum. You may be dead now but you missed out on my life. I pity you. You can never hurt me again though. I remember the good times with dad but not you.