Not all Ts are "warm and fuzzy". Certainly a good T won't be warm and fuzzy all the time.

Personally, I've reconciled the two worlds by becoming a warm fuzzy T myself - so I always have a warm fuzzy T wherever I go I'm only half kidding. I really believe that, if you manage to take a different perspective about things from your T (or else where0 and bring that with you wherever you go and start being kinder to yourself, then the two worlds won't be so far apart anymore.

To me, these aren't two worlds. I feel good with my T most of the time. I feel badly in certain other contexts (or with my t on occasion). The feelings may be very different, but they're all mine.