I would recommend you ask her for the list. I've found that sometimes I come across like what my T is saying isn't helping me. I don't even literally say that but it must be the way I look or nonverbal communication or something. It tends to cause a lot of tension in the relationship. It's probably because I don't feel understood.....but I do need help. I need those skills, even if I doubt their helpfulness. Even of they aren't going to literally "fix" things for me. Maybe they could help me stay afloat?

My T told me I carry around an "impossible" thing with me. He said its important that neither of us get stuck in that one....