Yeah i can understand that i dont have to tell them that im depressed to say that im not up to dealing with other peoples problems,,,,BUT,,when i was growing up no one cared what i thought about anything and when i did need to talk id get a shhhh so they could watch tv. I wouldnt want them to feel like that made me feel. I always pretend to at the very least appear to be listening(im sure i fall short sometimes) though. They have gone thru a lot so even tho i cant understand their problems as being big i still can see they went thru a divorce and having to deal with me everyday cant be any treat either. I just need to be more understanding and realize that my big serious mountains are just as trivial to them most likely. Thanks for helping me see that as that makes a bunch of sense. Heck even i can see after the fact that what im so stressed about is trivial in the grand scheme of things.