Here's my opinion. Transference is a word to describe feelings you might have about another person that aren't coming from any past experiences with that person. For example, if you meet someone and think they are really wonderful, hardworking and honest, even though you actually know almost nothing about them, it's just your intuition...

Romantic transference = falling in love = infatuation = limerence. This is a type of transference where, you really like some things about how your therapist treats you (patient, kind) and so you inwardly long for that person to be your soul mate and ascribe to them all the characteristics of your perfect lover. I think "falling in love" is a physical issue as much as it is mental, because it's also regulated by hormones.

I don't think you need to work through the feelings. I mean, feelings are just that, they are kind of unstoppable. You just need to be able to accept and acknowledge that it won't be consummated, that there is a lot of irrational thought there... etc etc.