im so sorry, my t goes over coping skills and makes sure i have them down packed, also i let her know , those words you mentioned up there, i was not ready to handle, the only word i use in therapy is trauma, and for now that is the only word she uses, she says eventually we will work on writing and saying those words, but she knows I am no where near there, and she does not want to cause unecessary stress to the relationship.