He IS a narcissist....conjecture from a murderer would mean just as much to someone who has managed to escape from a previously homicidal person. His insight, for a LOT of people having to get over being involved with a narcissist is helpful because, in a cold, clinical way...he just explains that the scorpion is a scorpion and that's pretty much it. Can't fault a scorpion for being what he (or she) is. Aesop....and actually, that fable is pretty much on the mark, explaining a narcs overall intentions, too.

And if you'd been involved for anytime WITH a narc, you'd see why what he says makes sense. Otherwise....you're just spreading self-help pap, that helps no one...including the 'self' who reads it.

I wish I could say I was sorry for the above words........but after 3 years of living with it and several months of trying to survive after it....I'm not.