Wow it must be awful not to be supported about going to therapy! I've often wondered what it would be like on the other person if I were in a serious relationship/marriage while going to therapy. Since I'm single, there's no issue for me (and no one to complain that I go). It seems to me that you won't be able to make him think that it's right for him to go to therapy, so I'd just concentrate on getting him to accept that you go. Just keep talking with him about it and why he dislikes your going. I wish I had some advice. Maybe someone out there has been in a similar situation?

I hope things work out for you. I can't think of anything more helpful than therapy though! I think you're right in waiting 'til things are solid before thinking about a second child.

Sorry I don't have much input to offer, but I've been thinking about your post. I hope things improve for you.

Sidony