Hi Withered-Rose, it sounds like you've really been let down by your doctor. Is there anyone you could take to your appointments with you who could "more forcefully" insist that he listens to you and does more to help? And maybe write down exactly how you've been feeling so as he doesn't sway you from getting everything you want to get across to him, with his attitude. If it comes to it though could you put in a complaint to someone above him? or even someone higher than those at his practice if you needed to?
And just doing enough to get by is completely understandable, and absolutely fine considering the way you've been feeling.
I know just working two jobs in itself must be really hard for you, but is there any chance you could look to changing one of those jobs for a slightly easier one?? Just to compensate slightly??
As for your children I'd say that one of the most important things you can do for them is just to let them know that you love them and to keep on making sure that they don't forget that. If you're struggling to meet some of what you want to do with them, or to see them as much as you'd like to, that in itself should go a long way.
Alison