[quote=bpfarmerswife;3660832]I'm still trying to come to grips with husband of 21 yrs having an affair. Here's the shortened version of what all has happened:

NOT GUILTY BY REASON OF INSANITY! To ask if "knew" what he was doing during a manic episode - is like asking an epileptic if they "knew" what they were doing during a seizure. Your husband really means what he telling you about being sorry and out-of-control - but that's your "normal" husband speaking. The maniac does as he pleases because there are no rules, restrictions, consequences, inhibitions, reservations, et cetera. Only the delusional world of the maniac exists - trust me because I've been there countless times - and not by choice.

Remember your husband has a devastating illness. He needs your understanding.