I think you deserved to get at the truth. When people refuse to come clean and continue to lie, sometimes the only way to get to the truth is spying. However, it is crucial to be emotionally prepared for anything. I learned that the hard way.

For many Women, it could be a curiosity thing to want to explore with a woman. It is not necessarily anything beyond that.

I think she is at the point to where she needs to figure things out on her own. If this is just a curious phase in her life or if this is the lifestyle that she wants in its full spectrum of reality.

I think she needs space and I do think you will be best protected yourself by giving her space.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I know how hard it is dealing with infidelity. It rips your heart apart.

Hang in there. If its meant to be, it will work itself out. If its not meant to be, you will find yourself with the right partner in the future. Be patient with yourself, too and don't rush too fast into a new rebound relationship....that could be more devastating than the original heartbreak if you are not guarding your heart closely enough. Be good to yourself and trust yourself, the rest will follow.