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Originally Posted by Rose76
He may have more of his father in him than you would care to believe.
Sorry you have this heartbreak to live with. A letter written on paper and sent via snail mail may have more impact than the emails have had. You could just say that you are sorry and leaving the door open, in case he changes his mind.
He may feel that you've never really taken responsibility. Abused kids don't want to hear, "I did the best I knew how." When you think about it, that's granting yourself a kind of absolution. Neither can you accept a relationship that requires you to beat up yourself for ever. People do make horrible mistakes. Your advisers may be right about how you can't live forever in the past.
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I have apologized, owned it, and I do wish I could have a do-over. I apologized once again in the letter I sent this morning and offered to just listen without saying anything while he told me everything he felt. But if he won't even communicate, I have nowhere to go from here. I've told him I love him and I will be here but I can't keep reaching out and being rejected over and over. Is that cold? I don't want to make things worse, but I can't sleep and
cry a lot so I'm unsure where to turn. I've sent him a CD and books about mindfulness when he said he was tense all the time--too much interfering?
He no doubt just pitched them in the trash anyway. I guess I'm just one of those people destined to be clueless in life.