Hello,

The Girlfriend and I are looking into birth control options because we are interested in having sex soon, but we don’t know what birth control would be best suited for our unique circumstances. We’ve been waiting almost a year now to have sex as we have sorted out our lives.

Soon we will have a short window of opportunity to have sex, and if it is missed, it will be at least a few months before we can do it again, therefore we would like to do it when we can.

Our main birth control issue is cost. The Pill, IUDs, etc. are all too expensive for her to afford, and even though I can easily afford them, she is too fiercely independent to let me. (Kind of frustrating, I must admit, but I respect her need for independence.)

Unless it is over-the-counter, i.e., not a prescription and not requiring a doctor, we won’t be able to use it. What we’re looking for are birth control options reliable enough for this one time of us having sex and not have an accidental pregnancy, like a condom + spermicide combination, or something else? If none exist, we won’t be having sex, but I thought I’d ask for advice.

We’re both kind of impatient to have sex but we both want to be as safe as possible too.