the best thing to come out of my sisters marriage (still married )is romance cards when not feeling well or knowing the other feels unloved we scratch off one of the tickets. We keep the tickets so it lasts longer. If its a sexual one or one not feesable we throw it back in and pick another. Its hard enough to do small loving things but almost impossible to think of one. When all else fails running you hand through your husbands hair while he lays on your lap watching a movie helps.