I don't really agree with that statement because I don't always love myself and currently I do not like muself much at all, but I do love my husband and daughter very much. For me it has been more about figuring out what my values as a human being are. So, how should a human being be treated regardless of who they are, and then applying that logic to myself.

So even if I felt like I was the scum of the earth, a person deserves xyz so therefor I should expect/demand xyz. It is a very concious process for me, I can't call it self love it is more like self respect via respect for others.