des hon get a restraining order against him today. change your email and phone number. close your myspace account. let the ones you want know where they can find you. you have to protect yourself and your family. this guy sounds dangerous to me. maybe it is time to let your husband know this man contacted you. you dont have to give him all the details. kind of candy coat it and tell him the guy has become obsessed with you and will not leave you alone. make your husband think everything this guy says is lies. spare his feelings and your marriage at all cost. good luck hon