I think your feelings are normal but I'm not sure about your experience. I'm thinking that a T who knows his client has erotic transference would be even more restrained and judicious about touch than he would be ordinarily. People have different thoughts about this but I think holding a client for a lengthy period while she cries is starting to enter some sketchy territory--especially a client with erotic transference.

I also think having a session at a cafe is like a date or something friends do. It's not so appropriate IMHO. It's not a confidential space, it changes the relationship between you, removing the formality and structure that keeps the relationship safe. Finally, I think the most he should have said to you upon seeing you at the garage was a very quick "hi." Approaching you from behind and referring to therapy strikes me as being tremendously inappropriate.

Your spidey sense must be picking up on something if you were moved to post this! I'm not sure this T is safe. Good luck with it.