"Sex in the Forbidden zone by peter Rutter is an excellent resource. I fell in love with my t years ago (been with him for 10) and the feelings remain the same. He is attracted to me also and says there is a "sexual tension" between us. That sure does not help me!! Meeting outside of the office is supposedly a no-no in the profession; there are so many rules and regulations. he could be on the "slippery slope"---no one knows, but that book will open your eyes. My t led me on big time, but that is another long story.