I am currently in the process of being diagnosed for personality disorders at the psychiatric district in my city, and I have had one session already. Basically, it was just a lot of standard questions, none which really dealt with anything I thought was important to me. Anyway, next time they will focus specifically on personality disorders (there's just a 4 months waiting time, but no biggy). So I went online and found out I could log in and read what they wrote about me.. at first I was a bit offended, because the doctor I had spoken to had written that I seemed "insecure and immature". Fine, I'm insecure, but I was immature as well? Okay, blow aside, her final diagnosis was social phobia. I was a bit breathless, to say the least. First of all, it was the very first session, didn't even last an hour. Second of all, she hasn't even assessed me for personality disorders and hadn't even gotten all the way around. How can she have a final diagnosis of me? When I am still going back for further diagnosing? Well, anyway.. I do agree that I have social phobia. But I also suspect avoidant (and possibly "quiet" borderline), so I had a small breakdown. I am SO scared of being misunderstood and being told it's just a phobia, and that I just need to be thrown out there, exposed, overcome it, when I feel it's so much deeper and more ingrained in me. Long story short, I told someone in a support group on FB and they told me I shouldn't care for diagnoses and that social phobia is fine. But I feel a need to describe WHO I am, not just how I feel scared sometimes. Fear is not my only problem.

Can any of you explain why you're here and not in the social phobia forum? To me there just seems to be a big difference between phobias and personality disorders.. In a way I feel I could overcome all my anxiety and still be "ill". How would you explain the difference here?