Transference in therapy is commonly in the form of a crush. But it can come in many forms, including rage. It means that feelings you had for someone in your past who your therapist reminds you of, is 'transferred' onto your therapist. In a way your right, it is transference. All relationships contain in. But outside of therapy you wouldn't say "I'm in transference with you." Because outside if therapy it isn't a normal term. You would just say, I have feelings for you.

For example, I once started a new job and one of my co workers looked and sounded and behaved like a past manager whom I loathed. After snapping at him a few times I realized it was totally unjustified. I even kidded with him once i realized, and told him he reminded me so much of this guy I hated but I'll get over it, because in truth, he was nothing like him in the end.

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