Hi there*

I don't think you are alone. I know I've personally felt this way as well at some point in time. But I think as the older you get, the more unlikely it is that you're going to find a guy that hasn't been involved with someone else at some point.

Overall, I don't mean this to come across as harsh, but such feelings are just our insecurities talking. Yes he was romantically involved with those women, but just remember, he is no longer with them now. Whatever he had with them is in the past, and he's here now in the present because he wants to be with you - not them, you.

Let me tell you something that may possibly help you out here. It is from my understanding/experience that most guys, when it comes to relationships, live in the present. (Girls, on the other hand, tend to live in the past, present and future.) So although he shares a history with them, his feelings for them are not at the forefront of his brain. A man tends to enter a new relationship with a clean slate/ a fresh start. So everything you do together from here on out, he won't think 'I remember the first time I went here or did this with 'x'', no, he is only thinking about you, in the here and in the now.

I'm not sure if this is making much sense.. but I hope some of what I have said helps you out in some way. Trying to understanding other people and social behaviour/situations is a great way to make sense of where your own thoughts & feelings lie. This is what worked for me at least.

*hugs* - Daily