PS just an idea, following my last T session in which we wrote down the bad things ex H and his mom said or did, went outside, and, literally, burned the piece of paper with the list. I felt relieved and exhilarated. So, what if you buy a special set of first rate German Christmas ornaments - just a few would suffice - as a replacement for those ornaments that you didn't have in that year?

I am planning to learn to make Christmas ornaments from Italian glass beads, but am not there yet...otherwise would offer a gift of a special ornament made to order, in colors that are meaningful for you. I hope by autumn I will have learned the necessary skills.