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Originally Posted by BeteNoire
Don't get me wrong I think it's awesome that most men are so willing to look after their parnoner.
It's when I explain to a potential partner that I have issues in that area and they take it as a challenge and then are absolutely mystified/mortified when I get grumpy and push them away from me.
I think I've just been unfortunate enough to run into those who are in it for their ego rather than their partner.
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Oh, then I get what your male lovers are doing. They are playing a game of overcoming unusual challenges not heretofore overcome by any man. I got this with parallel parking. I cannot parallel park - it is too complicated, daunting and scary for me. In my twenties, 4 men tried to teach me, to no avail.
In the past year, I mentioned it, jokingly, to two guys - a wonderful guy who is my bf and a dumbhead former classmate who wanted to date me. The bf said: "how do you go to san Francisco? " I replied that I would take a train. He calmly offered to teach me. I responded that it is not frequent that I need to go to san Francisco by train so it would not be worth for me to change it. He accepted it and we switched the topic of the conversation.
The former classmate wanted to teach me, saying that he would teach me in two minutes (really? So four guys before him were complete good-for-nothings? All four, in different states... what an unlucky coincidence). He bragged about his abilities, was loud and generally unpleasant to be around.
In the former case, the guy has a rational mind that leads him to realize that when 4 guys, each trying hard, could not teach a woman to parallel park, the problem lies within said woman.
In the latter case, the potential for bragging rights looms large on the horizon, and rational mind takes a back seat...no, gets thrown out of the car.
You need men in the former category.