Sometimes when people see right through us and know what is going on -- that means they either have experienced such things themselves or they have known someone close to them who has or is going through that.

I dont think it is defeat for you. I think it is a new opportunity to get to know someone who sees you as you are and still likes you. In time this person might be a good friend. I have several very good and supportive friends who are much older than me and some who are younger. The thing is -- they 'get' it.

The definition of a good friend is someone who know the good the bad and the ugly about you and still thinks you are okay. They love you in spite of yourself.