You need to be able to "see" your choices.

When me and hubby need to make a decision about something and are torn...we do what we call the M&M theory.

We dump out some M&M's on the table and make piles.

This is a positive--slide an M&M into one pile.

This is a con--slide on over to the other pile.

The biggest pile wins and then we eat the M&M's.

But where you are watching your weight maybe grapes or sunflower seeds.