Again thank you all for your replies. It really is helpful to get insight from so many different views. We're reading as much textbook information as we can but it helps so much more to hear personal experiences. We are both trying to learn as much as possible about this illness and deal with the havoc it has caused in our family. Yes at the time he had to know to follow her pursuit and go buy a phone, yes he knew he was talking to her, meeting her etc. but he still says even though he was hiding all of this, he felt like there was nothing wrong with what he was doing. He describes it as he was just going through the motions with the force pushing him to do so. He has talked with another gentleman that the same thing happened to and he described it the same way. He also said he didn't feel he was doing anything wrong and his lasted about 6 months along with he described his was as though something was "pulling the levers" and he was just there.

Thanks again, and we welcome any advice you may have.