One thing that makes a good therapist is someone who can take anything you tell them. Never looks taken aback or shocked-- so when you finally get up the courage to tell them something you've been saving because it's embarassing or uncomfortable or whatever... they kinda take it in casually, and lead you to discussion.... I've found that if the information is absorbed casually by T, I kinda feel like, "Whew. That wasn't so bad. I can really tell his guy anything." Of course there's a fine line between the T being causal and too casual. You don't want them to seem like they don't give a crap. I think my T draws that line perfectly.