But having the diagnosis of Asperger's didn't stop people from bullying me. It's not like I had a magical shield that I could whip out when a kid assaulted me out in front of a K-mart when I was fourteen. And it wouldn't have stopped them from bullying you.

Nor did having the diagnosis help me "fit in", because I had freewill and I didn't feel the need to fit in. I still don't now. I know how to deal with people so that I can function at work and still get through the day. But telling my boss that I have Asperger's doesn't prevent people at work from changing my routine, or making sudden rule changes without letting me know in advance. So I either have to deal with that stuff, or I have to get out.

Having the diagnosis won't stop people from accusing you of being lazy. They'll still make those accusations. They will still insist that you're just using it as an excuse to get away with being lazy.

Again, I'm not trying to discount your feelings. Maybe it did give you a peace of mind, but can you honestly say your life would have been any different if you knew one way or the other?

Cause when I look back on my life, nothing would have changed. Except that maybe teachers wouldn't have judged me so harshly based on information they didn't even understand. Or maybe my nosy aunt wouldn't have shouted the diagnosis from the rooftops, making it hard for me to be taken seriously at work because they thought I couldn't do anything besides push a broom and gather carriages.

If it makes you feel better, all the power to you. It never made me feel better and it doesn't make me feel better now. I honestly wish I could get the diagnosis removed but it's life long and I don't know how to go about it.