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Originally Posted by WonkyWonka
she thinks it's because im judging her
started to get awkward and she asked to leave.
She told me she had a sex partner and deleted him of her contacts after a week we were getting along (We are getting along for 3 weeks or less). I know she was really honest with me, I appreciate it,
I'm afraid of getting cheated again, I need to do some questions based on my history:
1. Was I wrong to act like this? no
2. Is there something wrong with me?no
3. How do I stop feeling so insecure (If it is what is really happening here)? it's normal, to fear becoming close to anyone, and as relationships build and grow and developing, there's little or big stepping stones every couple takes to build to the next level.
4. What should I do next? If she's feeling insecure, by expressing a feeling of judgment from you, there's not much you will be able to do, to sooth that within her.
I'm really lost and in need of some guidance, any help will be welcome, thansk for reading my case.
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It's commendable, that she decided to delete the last of her partners, as she's considering delving into a relationship with you. It's up to her, to recognize, that she, herself, is feeling very vulnerable, at this moment, for sharing all of that, with you. Perhaps, it's more a fear of rejection?
Just because she has behaved in a self professed promiscuous manner, doesn't necessarily make her a sex addict. Sounds like there's more to her, than how she has acted out, in the past with risk taking behavior. To look at it, that behavior can increase the risks for many things. Still, doesn't necessarily translate into a sex addict, lest a professional medical doctor, aka, psychiatrist has actually given her a diagnosis. Otherwise, the behavior and the self-diagnosis are actually a misnomer.
If she wants to seriously, make a remarkable change, in herself, there's assistance out there to help, provided it's her choice.
Doesn't translate that she'll necessarily cheat, but if she doesn't come to terms with what's inside of herself, it could seep out in other ways/behaviors.