So...I'm gonna say this as a general, nonspecific address in the interest of keeping the topic in line.

If we've nothing to contribute directly to the OP's situation, it serves nothing to post in this topic. A debate on the morality or "naturalness" or what-have-you of same sex marriage is a futile gesture in helping the OP, and if anything is completely detrimental. If there's a "debate" that must be had, I would suggest any parties involved make their own topic about it. But OP has come requesting advice in her own situation. Making the situation about your own moral/political/whatever views does nothing of help to the OP.

Just figured it'd be in the best interest to nip this in the bud. There's a time and a place. This isn't it.