Hi! Sorry I don't really know how to title this, but I have always had a strained relationship with my brother. He always insulted me badly and even got physical with me many times. He is 5 years older than me. I am 21 and he is 26. Me and my brother still live with out parents, but he is the opposite of me. He takes advantage of my dad's luxuries. He thinks he's entitled to everything, he's spoiled and coddled by my mother all the time. My parents are very passive people and gave us whatever we wanted, but the difference between me and my brother is that I am really appreciative of what my parents give me, and I respect them and their house, and their possessions a lot.

My brother treats my parents badly and just insults me badly and it's always been this way, and I always got disgusted with his arrogant behavior. Well he got a girlfriend She's from Canada, and he met her online, and well she stayed at our house like 7 months ago but it was only for 3 days so it wasn't a big deal. Our house is small though and we have no room for another person, but he planned to have his girlfriend stay at the house in January and he didn't even tell my mom. My dad was the one that said to my mom "Did you know that Jessica is staying here?" Me and my mother were shocked cause he was just going to show up with her, and it's not his house to do that.

Then to top it all off, my brother said she might go home in a week or 2 weeks or a month. He wasn't giving my mom and dad a concrete answer on when she is leaving. I was getting so sick of the disrespect my brother was doing to my parents, using their cars like 20 hours out of the day, stealing money, etc. Well I heard him and his girlfriend have sex in the house, and that was the final straw for me, so I flipped out and said "Get out of here, you guys should have got a hotel room, stop being disrespectful pigs" and it just escalated into a fight.

Then it escalated where my brother just kept fighting with me, we were calling each other names, and his girlfriend thought this all was funny. So then my brother put his hands on my face, and then my mother called the cops. When the cops were here his girlfriend said "She needs mental help" My brother and her kept saying that I was "crazy" and I said "He put his hands on me!" She said "I have known him and he is never violent" I said "Woah! You've only met him twice, and you talked to him online for 2 years, and you can be anybody you want on the internet, so no you don't know him and yes he has had a history of violence with me" So the cops forced them to leave.

Then they were forced to get a hotel, which is what they should have gotten in the first place, and then, all of a sudden I am out at a store, and my mom calls me franticly, and said "The cops bursted through the door, and were looking for you, they were here to arrest you, cause your brother filed a 302 on you" "Now you have a warrant out for your arrest to go to the mental hospital, you have to turn yourself in, or else they will come back and arrest you" I was shocked, angry and upset. So were my parents. I had to spend hours at this mental hospital, wasting space for someone who actually needs it. The doctors even said to me "Your brother is wasting our time" so I was sent home.

I literally hate my brother after that. I have had it with him, and I just can't stand him now. My parents are forcing forgiveness but it's not going to happen and it just stresses me out even more. That was a traumatic experience for me, and my brother is treacherous, he sealed his fate with me. I just don't get why my parents don't understand that. My brother doesn't feel bad at all about it, and he thinks it was right to do it, and now he's turning it around, and saying that I am jealous of him and his girlfriend, when I could care less about them, and I hate them, they mean absolutely nothing to me. But I am called evil, a ***** , a grudge holder etc. When I am just fed up with the hurt. I am fed up with him, all I ask is for distance, and he just keeps coming at me, and my parents keep forcing forgiveness, and I just don't want to forgive.

Any thoughts about this? I just want other peoples support or advice. Thanks for reading! I appreciate it!