Dan, that loss of motivation and other feelings you have described sounds like it could be depression. It may not be chronic. It sounds like it might be an acute, one time episode brought on by this situation, but as I said in my earlier post, I think you need the help of a mental health professional to work all this out.

I agree with the others, you need to look at moving into your own place. You will never be happy with your family lauding their beliefs on you.

But it's a lot to deal with. I am sure you love your family...they are your family. But you need to lead the life you want for yourself. How do you balance that? How do you tell your family, with conviction, what you want and while you love them, they need to accept you and the choices you make for your life and that includes the person you want to be with. They raised you and must now trust you are capable of making the right decisions for yourself.

If you take your family out of the equation, how do you really feel, deep down? I hope you feel love for your friend and the life you were experiencing before all this happened.

Please look for help with a mental health professional. Does your school have counseling services? If you are unable to get help from a therapist on your own, are there community services available to you. Also, as I mentioned in my earlier post you have a difficult dynamic you need to work out. I am sure you love your family, but how do you live the life you want without needing their acceptance and still having them be a part of your life? That's a lot.

I wish you luck.