Hey ernutis....welcome to P.C.

I sort of get what you are saying, its important to be empathetic and compasionate to those that need our help or reassurance. But when we ourselves are 'in a bad place' or in need of reassurance and comfort, it is more constructive to let go of guilt for those things we can't change, using our energies to strive to 'do better next time'.

Be kind to yourself ernutis. Q.L