Wow, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. It's really hard to say exactly what will trigger someone with bipolar because we can be so unpredictable and things that normally would not bother us can, out of nowhere, suddenly throw us into a rage. (My daughter has even told me that she often doesn't know how to act around me, because one day she will joke around with me and I'll go along with it and joke back, then the next time, I'll fly into a rage.) So I'm sure it's not you in particular.

It sounds like you are all in a stressful situation anyway, and as you said, your disorders are probably clashing. Often people get kind of irritated with people who suffer from depression because they think those people should just buck up. It's not really anyone's fault or anything, just people don't understand if they're not there. And as far as his not admitting his bipolar:: that's often typical. I know every case is different, but that can be a pretty common bipolar trait. I have done that several times throughout the years.

It sounds to me that no one is really trying to hurt anyone else, you just all have a lot on your plates. And I know you aren't trying to say anything bad about those of us who have bipolar, you are just trying to figure things out. It's hard to deal with someone who's bipolar anyway--and I know having depression, anxiety, and sleep issues can make things a lot more difficult.

Are there any support groups in your area for people in your situation? Here is a good website that I like: Depression & Bipolar Support Alliance - Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance . It's geared towards people who suffer from depression or bipolar, and their loved ones. Good luck!